Have you ever known someone who seems to be determined to think the worst of you? Like no matter what you say if there’s a possibility that you could be teetering on the line of being a jerk this person on going to believe you are a full on a-hole. Recently I thought of a friend from high school and the demise of our friendship a few years later…. I guess I probably should have seen it coming, but I guess I was rocking my rose colored glasses when it came to her.
We met over the summer while working at McDonald’s and become fast friends. She would drive me home after work if we closed together, because I didn’t have a license yet and we hung out a lot on our off days. I remember riding in her car, music up loud, and singing Zhane’ or Adina Howard at the top of our lungs. We had so much fun that summer. When school started in the fall her senior and my junior year the rising sophomores joined us at the high school. I got to see a lot of my friends from junior high and the seniors were able to meet some of these people for the first time. My friend, let’s just call her Lisa, met one of my friends (and former boyfriend for a short time) who we will call Trent. Lisa had a huge crush on Trent she talked about him all the time. A few months into the year Trent started dating my cousin….. It’s a small town what can I say… Lisa was upset with me, because Trent and my cousin were dating and she swore I set them up. I tried to tell her I didn’t, but no matter what I said she wholeheartedly believed I had a hand in them getting together.
Eventually she got over it and we continued to hang out until she graduated. When I started considering colleges she drove home, picked me up and took me on a tour of campus. I ended up going to school somewhere else and we lost touch, but several years later she looked me up when we were both living in Atlanta. We chatted for a few minutes and we didn’t speak again until we ran into each other in our hometown…. I was happy to see her, but she wasn’t quite as enthused about running into me. In fact she basically bit my head off about the last time we spoke because she said I was very “dry” when she called. Now I will say I did look at the phone a little longer than normal because I didn’t recognize the name on the caller ID, but once she told me who she was I was genuinely glad to hear from her.
I haven’t seen Lisa since that day and to be honest I haven’t thought about her much, but she does cross my mind from time to time. It bugged me for a long time that she thought so poorly of me, but what can you do?