What’s That I Smell? Why I Do Believe It’s a Steaming Pile Of BS!!!!

I should start this off by saying I am in no way a biblical scholar nor am I trying to comment on a person’s salvation/relationship with God, but someone just made a proposition that is as unbelievable as it is hard to ignore.

A man, J, who has recently started attending church again and is “trying to get his life right” is dating a like-minded individual.  J’s lady friend has stated that she does not want to have sex until she is married. J says he is trying to get right spiritually but he isn’t there yet so he decides that since he’s not there it is ok for him to text a woman and proposes that she has sex with him once a week because he’s not ready to give that up just yet.

So maybe it’s just me, because I know some times my moral compass tends to end up on high, but that just seems like all kinds of wrong.  Who does that???? I know we are supposed to go to God , confess our sins and ask for forgiveness, but who in the heck just says I am not only going to NOT do what I am supposed to do I am not even going to try to do the right thing?

I also think the person on the receiving end of the proposal should be a bit offended, but once again that is just me.  My house is definitely one of a see-through nature so I won’t be slinging any rocks any time soon, but this entire situation has me puzzle and honestly I am done trying to understand it because I know his logic and mine are quite different and oftentimes people’s motives are unclear even with an explanation.  So I said all of that to say on this one I call BULLSHIT. You can’t un-ring the bell but let’s slowly back away from it shall we?

Stereotypical women???

Someone just shared with me a friend of theirs is having marital troubles and the guy believes the main reason he is having these problems is because his wife is black amongst other things, but mostly because she is black. I really found this disturbing as I am a black woman and in no way shape or form does my skin color make me a troublemaker in relationships.  If a person chooses to date outside his/her race then I certainly have no problem with that as my family is more mixed up than a box of Chex Party Mix, but to justify your choices by saying black women are drama-filled, like to argue, etc that’s when I have a problem. 

I firmly believe that problems will arise in relationships and they have more to do with differing points of view, personality, and perhaps even upbringing/culture, but I do not and no one can convince me that just because someone is of another race will they get along better. 

If you like Caucasian, Hispanic, Asian then just own up to it don’t try to justify your choice just be a man and date who you want without bashing your grandmother, mother, or sister in the process.

That is all.

Confessions of a people pleaser

I was recently reading something and one line stood out “what others think about you is their business.” Honestly reading that was like a light bulb switching on for me. For far too long I’ve always wanted people to think the best of me and I find myself going out of my way to be just a little bit nicer, more polite, forgiving, light-hearted than I probably truly am for the sake of my image.

While reading that sentence wasn’t the beginning of a huge epiphany it did make me realize no matter what I do, how nice, accomodating, friendly, and patient I am there will always be someone no matter what the circumstance that will just simply think ill of me and that is okay. My mom has always told me there will people who dislike you or talk about you despite all you do she’s also known for saying people talked about Jesus so they will talk about you. She’s a wise old bird when she wants to be and more importantly when I choose to listen.